5 Incredible Tactics to Get Rid of ‘The Comparison Trap'(#2 is a must for you !)

 Unknowingly, we have fallen into the comparison trap in every aspect of our life. The number of categories in which we can compare ourselves to others is many like our marks, salaries, our standard of living, or our social media profiles. This article discusses 5 simple and effective ways by which we can avoid this disastrous habit of comparison, and get rid of the Comparison Trap.

What is the Comparison Trap?

It is the habit of comparing or measuring your qualities with others, in different areas of life like career, wealth, health, relationship, looks, etc.

Have you ever compared yourself to others? If your answer is, “Yes often!” then think again. Because the correct answer to this question is “Yes always!”

In schools, we compared our marks, in jobs we compare our salaries. In society, we compare our lifestyles and this cycle continues till the last breath of life. Even in old age, our health is compared to who lives longer?

WOW! how beautifully do we waste half of our precious time while thinking about what others have which we don’t?

What is the danger of The Comparison Trap?

This comparison trap gradually leads us to huge disappointments, insecurities, jealousy, and other such negative emotions. It’s a never-ending trap .

It not only kills our happiness but also affects our confidence and self-esteem, making us feel miserable.

How  can  get out of the comparison trap?

Since Comparison is inculcated in us from our childhood .Still, the resulting emotions of envy, unhappiness, are not too impossible to control. 

With these simple steps, you can try your best to come out of this trap quickly.

1. Understand your worth

Compare yourself with your previous scores instead of comparing yourself to other’s scores.Your focus should be on becoming a better person .

So, instead of wasting time comparing yourself .

2. Scrolling is okay, stressful scrolling is not! 

Today we have become so much addicted to this virtual world, that we fail to understand the difference between real and virtual life.

Nobody’s life is as perfect as they show on social media. Nobody looks as superb as their display pictures on different social sites. Moreover, #Felling_happy  doesn’t mean they don’t have any problems in their lives.

Avoiding social media!

Ask yourself, can you live without your phone even for a single day? No matter how serious or mature a person you are.

You just have to filter the contents you follow on social media. Replace your news feed with positive people and positive vibes. Unfollow the people or posts that put your morale down. Cleanliness is important both in the real and virtual world. It’s as simple as that.

3. Focus on self-care 

Tell a better story to yourself, rather than being upset about other’s vacation photos or stories.

4. Love more, Hate less 

“He must be lucky enough to clear SSC in the very first attempt”.

“How could she secure a better job, she is no way more talented than me?”

We don’t leave even a single way to judge someone. It’s rare to find people who are genuinely happy over someone’s achievements. In place of appreciating someone or anything else .

5.Count your blessings

Be grateful for what you have Now .

Accept your present and be in the present. Stop oscillating between your past and future thoughts. 

########My Final Thoughts #########

Life is not a competition. It’s a journey. Our journey of life is completely our responsibility. It has nothing to do with how well others are doing. The comparison trap is when you are unhappy with what you have because it does not measure up to the expectations of others around you.

A comparison should be on similar things like you can compare between two mangoes; which is sweeter? Or which smells better? But what’s the point of comparing a mango with guava? If God has created you like a mango; why do you waste your time trying to become guava?

STOP COMPARING, START ACCEPTING!

Thankyou 😊 Everyone 🙏

- Aviral Singh